Let’s not beat around the bush – 2020 was a tough year that affected the mental health of many people. And while obviously everything won’t be back to normal within just a few days, the beginning of 2021 is the perfect time to leave it behind and focus on yourself and your relationship.
Have you ever heard the term ‘relationship goals’? You must have, especially if you’re a regular Pinterest user. Pictures of couples doing all kinds of stuff together and living life in their little bubble became a sensation on this social media platform. Many people wanted to be like them.
However, #relationshipgoals go beyond that. It’s all about creating, deepening, and strengthening the connection with your special someone. Want to find out more about them and what relationship goals you should pursue in 2021? Keep on reading then.
As you probably know from experience, if you do something all the time, without introducing any changes, it can quickly become boring. The same goes for spending time with your partner – sure, it might not happen within the first year or two of the relationship, but it probably will at some point. Instead of waiting for that to occur, take matters into your own hands, and make sure it doesn’t.
Create some novelty, discover new things, add spiciness to your life – both inside and outside the bedroom.
In the Bedroom
Everyone has some hidden fantasies that they would like to turn into a reality with their partner but are too shy to talk about it with them. In 2021, there’s no place for that – communication is crucial. It doesn’t matter if it’s about trying sex dolls or trying out the dominant and submissive roleplay – your partner cannot read your mind, you have to tell them what you want.
Side note: Many companies (for example, Silicon Wives) produce sex dolls and sex toys for both gender, so if your partner is worried about not being able to find a perfect model for themselves, there’s no need for that).
Outside the Bedroom
Trying out new things is as important inside the bedroom as it is outside of it. Maybe there’s something you always wanted to try but didn’t have the courage to, like rock climbing or scuba diving? Now’s a perfect time. After all 2020 put us through, 2021 is all about letting loose and living in the present. Besides, doing things with the person you love is much more fun than doing it alone.
Think About Your Feelings First
When arguing, it’s very easy to just address the way the other person is behaving and not your feelings. You must have experienced that as well, many times. Instead of saying “I feel ignored.” or ” I feel like I don’t matter to you anymore,” you said, “You’re being selfish.” or “You’re only thinking about yourself.”
It’s time to change that. Instead of calling out your partner’s behavior, frame your thoughts with “I…” statements and describe what you are feeling. Why would you do that? Well, it allows you to express how you really feel without accusing your partner and gives them space to discuss their intentions.
Discover What You Want
Think about what you want from your relationship this year – Is it passion? Security? Or maybe excitement? Do you want to have dates every week? Or maybe you want to try some new positions in the bedroom? Discover what matters to you as a couple, and then think about what can help you achieve it.
Establish Your “Me Time”
Although doing things and spending time together can definitely be fun, you both also need to have some time for yourself. Maybe there’s something that you wanted to do, but thought your partner wouldn’t like it, so you decided against it? Do it by yourself!
If you have lived with your significant other during the lockdown, then having “me time” might be just what both of you need to keep things fresh.
Follow Your Own Timeline
Remember – your relationship is yours, and no one else’s. Just because someone thinks that they know how your relationship should go does not mean that it is true. Both you and your partner are adult enough to make your own choices, and that includes how your relationship will look like and what steps you will take in it.
Don’t let anyone dictate you these types of things – sure, they can give their opinion, but you shouldn’t let it get through to you. People always had, have, and will have something to say in matters that don’t really concern them – it’s up to you whether you decide to listen to them.
The Bottom Line
Relationship goals is not a new term in the dictionary of frequent Pinterest users. If you’re one of them, you have probably seen it all – the couples doing everything together, starting from something as trivial as putting on face masks to jumping out of the plane.
However, relationship goals are far more than that – it’s not only about spending time together. It’s about making the connection between both of you stronger. Although there are plenty of #relationshipgoals2021 we could mention here, we thought the ones above are the most important ones. Whether you decide to implement them into your and your parent’s life is completely up to you. Either way, good luck!